Can you relate?

• Do you ever feel like you're constantly trying to keep everything in order, but it leaves you feeling drained and frustrated?
• Do you sometimes catch yourself thinking about what others should or shouldn’t be doing, even when you're trying to relax or enjoy the moment?
• Do you find yourself consumed with thoughts focusing on what others are or aren’t doing is taking away from the quality time you could be spending with them?
• Are you feeling weighed down by the constant need to oversee everything, wondering how much longer you can keep this pace up?
• Does it feel exhausting to always be on high alert, ensuring that everything is just right, even when it means you don’t get to let your guard down?
• Are you tired of feeling like your happiness depends on changing the actions or choices of others?
• Are you worn out from relying on other people to change so you can feel better? 
• Are you ready to feel more peace within yourself and more connection in your relationships?

It's all possible for you. I want to help.

The Course Includes

1. Lifetime access to all recorded video lessons, so you can learn at your own pace.
2. Downloadable workbook to help you deepen your learning and apply the insights to your daily life.
3. Access everything you need right from your computer or from the convenient app.
4. Exclusive access to private, guided monthly meditations that help you stay grounded and focused.
5. Bonus: The Time Matters - Take Time to Make Time mini-course FREE! Learn how to prioritize what truly matters and make time for the things that bring you peace.

What if...

• You no longer needed others to act a certain way to find peace.
• Your thoughts focused on the good you can create and control in your life, instead of what others are doing.
• No more frustration or resentment about how others "should" be; instead, your mind is filled with appreciation for who they are.
• You could love and accept those closest to you exactly as they are—without expectations—creating a deeper, more authentic connection.
• You let go of trying to control life’s circumstances, trusting that everything unfolds as it’s meant to, and embracing peace in the flow.
• You felt in control of your inner world, experiencing peace and joy in the present moment. 

It's All possible. I'll show you how.

Hi, I’m Becky Beck...

My husband, Kevin, and I have been married since 1993. From the moment I knew he was "the one," I started to see him as an extension of myself—and I’d get frustrated when he didn’t do things the way I thought he should.

Over time, I realized that I was being judgmental and prideful. For years, I prayed and worked to change, but the help I hoped for didn’t come.

It wasn’t until my late 40s that I had the breakthrough: I was the one responsible for all my frustration. I discovered I had an obsessive need to control Kevin, and I didn’t feel okay unless he was doing what I wanted.

That awareness set me on my own path to healing. It was a difficult journey. I prayed, searched, and worked hard to find the tools and insights that would help me break free from this need to control. And when I found them, the transformation was life-changing.

I took everything I learned and created the program I wish had been available to me during those years of struggle.

Holding onto things outside your control is like gripping a cactus. It's painful, exhausting, and unproductive. I can help you "drop the cactus" and find the peace and freedom that come when you give your loved ones back their agency—and take back your own.

Today, I’m an author, blogger, educator, and certified creation coach. I empower faith-centered women—women like you, exhausted from trying to change your husband or others so you can feel better—to turn your weaknesses into strength with the help of Jesus Christ.

How it works

When you sign up, you'll receive a welcome video with an overview of the course, plus immediate access to the Take Time to Make Time mini-course and workbook. Your first lesson will be delivered the following week.

Each week, a new video lesson and accompanying workbook will arrive in your inbox. Every fourth week is a "rest week," giving you the opportunity to catch up or take a break if needed.

This is a self-paced course, so you can spend more than a week on any lesson or pause whenever you need to. The content will always be available when you're ready to continue.

Access all course materials from your computer or via the app, so you can watch or listen to lessons anytime, anywhere.

Questions? Feel free to email me anytime throughout the course.

You have permission...

• To want deeper, more authentic connections in your relationships.
• To let go of the frustration that comes with trying to control everything.
• To embrace the peace, freedom, and joy that unfold when you let go of control.
• To stop obsessing about what you can’t change and create change, and instead, focus on what you can control to create real transformation.
• To drop the cactus! - let go of “that thing” you are holding onto so tightly, the thing that's causing you so much pain and frustration.

Starting today, life could be different 

Here's what you'll learn...

Why you control and where those controlling patterns come from. 

How taking control of your thoughts can allow you to let go of false beliefs, future fears and access the peace of the present.

How to respect the agency of others and reclaim your own.

This course is just right for you if...

• You’re tired of feeling like a victim and want to stop waiting for others to change before you can feel better.
• You’re worn out from investing more in others’ interests than they do—and you're ready for a more balanced, fulfilling connection.
• You’re exhausted from always being on guard and want to trust God with the things beyond your control.
• You feel overwhelmed despite your best efforts to prepare for the future and prevent problems.
• You’re longing for more inner peace and deeper connections with the people who matter most.
• You’re ready to focus on what you can control—and let go of the rest.

You may be wondering...

Let's do this together!

I can’t wait to help you let go of control, create space for deeper connection in your relationships, and give you the power to focus on what matters most to you. You’ll love the freedom that comes from giving others their agency and reclaiming your own.