Support After Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Loss

Hi, I'm Becky  

Hello, my friend. I’m so sorry you’re here, but I am grateful you found me. I know this can be a vulnerable place, and I want you to know you are not alone.

When I was 20 weeks pregnant, doctors told us our son, Kevin, was incompatible with life. I know firsthand how lonely, confusing, and painful this journey can feel.

Whether your loss was recent or years ago, you’re welcome here. We’ll take it one step at a time. Start wherever feels right for you today.

What you might be feeling after losing a baby:

• Numb or empty
• Angry at how unfair this is
• Guilty, or wondering if you did something wrong
• Like no one understands
• Distant from God, or struggling to trust Him
• Pressure to move on before you’re ready
• A physical ache, like your body is still waiting for your baby

All of this is normal. Your grief is real, and your baby mattered.

From one mama to another:

I made this short video for you, about what helped me after losing my Baby Kevin.

Short recordings for mamas

Each recording is about 8 minutes or less, with one simple tool to help you through your grief.

Also on Apple Podcasts and Spotify

Carrying Hope

After I lost Baby Kevin, I remember being up in the middle of the night, searching online for help. I just wanted to know I wasn’t alone, I wondered what I could do to feel better, and I was looking for hope.

That’s why I created Carrying Hope, a program to help you take small steps toward healing at your own pace.

Talk with someone

I serve as chaplain for Forever Ours Foundation, a nonprofit that supports families after miscarriage, stillbirth, and infant loss. They offer free support groups, both in person in Utah and virtually.

Here for someone you love?

If you’re supporting a mama after the loss of her baby, here are a few things that help:

• Say her baby’s name.
• Ask, "What are you feeling right now?" and let her talk. Just listen and validate her feelings.
• Don’t try to fix it. Just be with her.
• Mark her due date and her baby’s birthday on your calendar, and reach out on those days.
• Keep checking in, even months later.

You can also share this page with her when she’s ready.