Hi, I'm Becky

This is My Story

I believe life is too short not to focus on what matters. My faith in Jesus Christ and my love for my family and friends are everything to me.

I'm a mom to eight children, seven living and one in heaven, and Grandma Becky to a bunch more. I find some of my greatest joy in helping the people I love reach their potential.

I also believe life can be full and joyful even in the middle of hard things. I'm living proof of that.

Our last child, Kevin Jr (or Baby Kevin as we all called him), was diagnosed with a fatal chromosome defect at 20 weeks gestation. I carried him to 37 weeks and he passed away shortly after birth. His death was the hardest thing I've ever walked through, and somehow, also one of the most beautiful experiences of my life. As I brought my grief to Jesus Christ, He healed my heart. He healed our whole family too.

I've learned through my loss that grief and joy can coexist. Joy makes grief manageable and transforms our lives into something greater. There is a big, beautiful life on the other side of loss.

One of the good things that has come from losing Baby Kevin is the chance to help other families in their own loss. I serve as chaplain for the Forever Ours Foundation, a non-profit that supports families who have experienced miscarriage and infant loss. It's a privilege to help these families and is one of the ways I've found purpose and meaning in my loss.

If you're facing or have experienced miscarriage or infant loss, Forever Ours Foundation offers support and community. I'd love for you to reach out.

When I'm not teaching others how to work through their grief, you'll likely find me spending time with family, planning my next vacation (usually while I'm on a vacation), at a movie or concert, or reading a good book.

I love to laugh and I believe we were made for joy, not just someday on the other side of grief, but right now. It's amazing to me, the power joy has to run parallel to grief.

I know that because I've lived it. And I want you to know it's possible for you too.

Today, I'm a grief educator and creator of The Grief Cycle, a simple framework for working through grief. I'm also an author and chaplain, and I hold a master's degree in business leadership and management. I create online courses, programs, and trainings to help individuals, families, and organizations recognize grief, navigate loss, and find healing. As a consultant, I also partner directly with businesses and leaders to build grief-informed workplaces.

I invite you to read my book, Too Perfect for This Life

I share my own personal journey of losing a child and where I found healing, offering support as you find your way to a beautiful life on the other side of loss.

"After receiving our fatal diagnosis, hope was the one thing I clung to every day of my pregnancy... As much as I hoped for a miracle, 'But if not...' I had complete faith in my Heavenly Father's plan for our son and I was willing to give him back, whenever God chose to take him."

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"Beautifully written. Both a heartbreaking and uplifting story of hope and faith. A must-read for parents who have lost a child due to birth complications. An inspirational memoir of a dedicated mother." — Dee

I've also written Finding Joy in The Grief Cycle

Together we'll walk through the steps I've taught others to help them move through grief toward hope and healing. You don't have to stay stuck in loss, this book offers a path forward.