Ready to Drop the Cactus?

After loss, it's natural to grip tighter to control. This course will help you let go — and find peace, no matter where that need to control shows up in your life.

Can you relate?

• Since your loss, do you find yourself needing to control everything around you, just to feel okay?
• After loss took so much, does control feel like the one thing you still have?
• Do you catch yourself trying to manage other people's feelings, choices, or reactions — even when you're exhausted?
• Does it feel like if you just plan enough, prepare enough, or stay on top of everything enough, you can keep more pain from happening?
• Are you weighed down by the constant need to stay in control, wondering how much longer you can keep this pace up?
• Does it feel exhausting to always be on guard, never fully able to let your grip loosen?
• Are you tired of feeling like your peace depends on everything around you going a certain way?
• Are you worn out from trying to control what you can't, instead of grieving what actually happened?
• Are you ready to feel more peace within yourself, and more freedom in how you move through life after loss?

It's all possible for you. I want to help.

What the Course Includes

1. Weekly video lessons, so you can learn at your own pace.
2. A downloadable workbook to help you deepen your learning and apply the insights to your daily life.
3. Rest weeks built into the schedule — every fourth week gives you space to catch up, reflect, or simply take a break.
4. Lifetime access — including any future updates or added lessons.
5. Access everything from your computer or the convenient app.

Bonus: Take Time to Make Time — a free mini-course to help you find the time for this journey, even if your schedule feels impossibly full.

What if...

• You no longer needed to control everything around you just to feel safe?
• Your mind was filled with peace instead of constant planning, worrying, and bracing for what might go wrong?
• You could feel your grief fully, without needing to manage or control it?
• You trusted that you could handle whatever comes, without needing to control it first?
• You let go of trying to control the people you love and life's circumstances, trusting that you can find peace even in what you can't control?
• You felt in control of your inner world — experiencing real peace and joy, even in the middle of loss?

It's all possible. I'll show you how.

Hi, I'm Becky Beck...

A few years ago, I was sitting on the couch across from my therapist, Court, arguing with reality and frustrated over things that were very much out of my control.

I didn't realize it at the time, but grief was at the core of my need to control. After the loss of my son, I found myself gripping tightly to anything I could control, because so much had already been taken from me that I couldn't.

Court listened to my reasons for holding on so tightly. Then he looked me in the eye and said, "Becky, you can either decide what percentage of your life you want to dedicate to trying to control this thing you actually have no control over, or you can drop the cactus."

I immediately pictured myself gripping a cactus — something I would never actually do. Over time, I realized I'd been gripping all sorts of them — not just around my grief, but in my marriage, my parenting, my fears about the future. Those three words set me on a new path: learning to let go of control and surrender to what is, in every area of my life.

I took what I learned and built the course I wish I'd had. Today, I'm an author, speaker, chaplain, and grief and wellness educator, and I created Drop the Cactus to help you find that same freedom — whatever it is you're gripping too tightly.

Becky does a fantastic job of drawing you in. It feels like a one-on-one conversation with a good friend.

How it works

When you sign up, you'll receive a welcome video with an overview of the course, plus immediate access to the Take Time to Make Time mini-course and workbook. Your first lesson will be delivered the following week.

Each week, a new video lesson and accompanying workbook will arrive in your inbox. Every fourth week is a rest week, giving you the space to catch up or simply take a break.

This is a self-paced course, so you can spend more than a week on any lesson or pause whenever you need to. The content will always be available when you're ready to continue.

Access all course materials from your computer or the app, so you can watch or listen to lessons anytime, anywhere.

Go at your own pace — this is your journey, not a race.

You have permission...

• To want peace, even in the middle of what you can't control.
• To let go of the frustration that comes with trying to control everything.
• To embrace the peace, freedom, and joy that unfold when you let go of control.
• To stop obsessing over what you can't change, and instead focus on what you can — creating real transformation.
• To drop the cactus — to let go of "that thing" you're holding onto so tightly, the thing that's causing you so much pain. 

Starting today life could be different

You didn't start gripping the cactus overnight. Here's how you let go — one module at a time.

This course is just right for you if...

• You're tired of feeling like everything depends on you, and you're ready to stop carrying it all alone.
• You're exhausted from always being on guard, bracing for what might go wrong.
• You feel overwhelmed despite your best efforts to prepare for the future and prevent problems.
• You're ready to trust God with the things that were never yours to control.
• You're longing for more inner peace, no matter what's happening around you.
• You're ready to focus on what you can control — and let go of the rest.

You may be wondering

The Investment

Almost everything I create is free, because I believe grief and life's hardest moments deserve accessible support. This course is different — it's a guided journey with real, practical tools, and it asks something of you in return: your investment. That investment is part of what makes it successful.

Let's do this together!

I can't wait to help you let go of control, find real peace in your own mind and heart, and finally put down what was never yours to carry. You'll love the freedom waiting for you on the other side.